Madeline Levine gives some advice to parents:
1. Don’t do something for your child that he/she can do.
2. Don’t do something for your child that he’she can almost do
3. Don’t confuse your needs with your kids needs
She used an example of a parent who was putting a lot of pressure for his child to apply to Harvard, and after some therapy she discovered the dad was the only one in his family who did not attend, and he wanted to show his family he was good enough by getting his kid in.